A Beginner's Life

We're Getting Married!

5 min read

Yesterday was one of the best days of my life. My long-time girlfriend and best friend, Marisa, said “yes” to marrying me. Talk about awesome!!

Of course, the first question on everyone’s mind is, “so how did it happen?” Because I’m so excited and geeked out on it, I respond with a super long story, chronicling each and every detail. Sorry, I’m just too pumped up!

To save you the trouble of having to say “skip all that stuff” and before I forget anything, I want to write it down. I hope you’ll enjoy the story smiley.

marisa at Homewood

I had been really nervous to propose for months. It seemed like something that had to be perfect – I really wanted to come up with a good plan, because I would only be able to do it once.

That pressure for perfection led to me really procrastinate. I give our mutual friends, so much credit for getting me through it all. Laura, in particular, pushed me to set up appointments with multiple jewelers, to help find the right one. On a recommendation from Jared, we set up an appointment with Sevag from Boston Ring and Gem. To make sure I didn’t make a fool of myself, Laura even came with me. Talk about dedication! It wouldn’t have turned out nearly as perfect without her help.

Sevag (who is awesome and you should work with) helped me with all the details for the perfect ring, and then he asked, “so, when do you want this by?” Although I had no solid plan, I knew we had a ski trip to Lake Tahoe planned for mid-March. The best part was, Marisa had planned the trip for my 30th birthday – she would never see it coming. Sevag looked at me sideways when I asked him for a quick turnaround time, and then said, “well, I’ll give it a shot.”

The day before we flew out, the ring was ready. Talk about cutting it close! You know how they say your life totally changes when you see your child for the first time? I felt completely different when Sevag showed me the finished ring. I was ready.

I stuffed the ring box as far into my carry-on bag as I could, and then watched that bag like a hawk. Marisa didn’t touch it between our house and arriving in Sacramento.

sacramento airport

At this point, as Chris can attest, that ring was really burning a hole in my pocket. I was so excited! But I knew I’d come so far, and I really wanted the perfect story for us to tell. Only one problem – I had no plan. None whatsoever. Since it was in doubt that I’d have the ring for our Tahoe trip, I hadn’t wanted to get my heart too set on a proposal plan. I was just totally winging it at this point.

Fast-forward our story to Friday morning. Let me set the scene – we were skiing at Homewood, a (relatively) tiny ski resort in the Lake Tahoe basin. It has breathtaking views – it looks like you’re skiing right into the lake! When we arrived, I thought to myself, “this could really work, I might actually pull this off.”

homewood resort

Then some wheels started to come off. To start, we got separated from Aaron and Samantha, who were my planned documenters for the event. Then, the clouds started rolling in, ruining the perfectly blue skies from the morning. Finally, a wire bridge behind Marisa’s teeth fell off! By the time we regrouped at the car for lunch, I had scrapped my plans. It was just feeling like luck was decidedly not on my side.

Sometimes, you just have to go for it, regardless of the (lack of a) plan. I made up some excuse to get back to the car, and pulled the ring box from the depths of my backpack. As Aaron and I rode the lift back up, the clouds completely disappeared. I started sweating bullets. This was it!

Samantha, Aaron’s girlfriend, deserves all the credit in the world for making the moment special. In her first time skiing ever, she took the lift up to the top of the mountain just to help me capture the moment.

I started shaking when we got off the lift. The ring box was bulky and heavy in my jacket pocket. I had a few things I really wanted to say, and I kept running through them in my head.

In the end, it was Marisa who suggested we stop to take photos at the beautiful clearing Homewood has set up near the top of the mountain. From there, you can see Lake Tahoe, and the snow-capped mountains that surround it. The whole scene is framed with tall pine trees. It was perfect.

I could tell you all about the moment, but luckily Sam was there to record.

I didn’t get the chance to say much of anything, as Marisa’s reaction was so incredible I was lost for words. That didn’t end up mattering much.

Over the last two days, I’ve been absolutely floored by the loving responses from our friends and family. I can’t believe how blessed we are.

So excited to marry my best friend.

post propose kiss

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